Post by littlematchstick on Feb 14, 2011 14:37:25 GMT -8
I know that we're not the only family out there with money problems, and I'm sure there are people a lot worse off then we are. But I am so fucking frustrated right now.
My uncle was in a bad car accident last year and cannot work, he can barely walk--he uses a walker, and eventually will graduate to a cain. He had a crushed hip, and has 3 plates in his hip as well as some other *hardware*. The accident also affected his vision slightly. He wasn't the brighest person ever beforehand, and the injuries seem to have made his mental problems worse as well. There is absolutley no way he can hold a job at this point. So my mom got power of attorney over him and filed for disability for him as soon as it was possible. We got the rejection letter today. So now we have to continue supporting him and buying his meds (which aren't cheap).
My mom is also on disability (AKA: very fixed income). She has had 3 back surgeries, has high blood pressure, diabetes, has already had a minor stroke, and currently has at least 1 ruptured disk in her neck...as well as an array of other health issues. She actually goes without some of her meds to make sure my uncle gets what he needs, even with the disability she can't afford the copay on some of her meds.
My moms girlfriend (as in life partner) is much older then my mom..she just turned 70. She doesn't have a lot of health issues that we know of (she refuses to go to a doctor). But she is obviously getting up there in age and gets tired easier herself. She works a part time job, and gets a small social security check.
I was diagnosed this morning with fibromyalgia and I haven't had a job in almost 2 years. I was in college and everything was going great, but then I ended up owing my college money, and I haven't been able to afford to go back. When I was in school I was working in the campus library..so when I left school..I had to leave my job behind as well. When I moved home I haven't been able to find a job since. I have no health insurance, so my mom is also paying for my meds too. And my doctor just added 2 more to my regimen that we really can't afford either. It's a juggling act now to make sure my meds are spaced out enough that we can afford them depending on the time of the month and when checks come in. I'm currently in the process of trying to find a job. I'm working with my mental health clinic and their vocational department, and Im hoping something comes up, but we live in a small area with high unemployment, so I'm not sure how soon it will be that I can find a job.
On top of that, everyone in the house suffers from some kind of mental disorder. My uncle suffers from depression (made worse by the car accident), my mom suffers from severe depression, and I suffer from depression and Borderline Personality Disorder.
I just don't know what we're going to do, we've been hoping his disability would go through for the extra income and to take some of the burden of my mom and her g/f. We're already on foodstamps to get by (but foodstamps don't pay the bills). Just our medications alone cost a couple hundred bucks a month. Plus our bills are outrageous because we just can't pay them in full so we pay what we can. Several times we've been only a day or 2 from utilities being shut off.
My moms depression is getting really bad, and now my uncles is worse because of his denial letter. Mine isn't very good because I feel so fucking guilty that I can't help out more. I try to do what I can around the house, but I just get so tired and achy that sometimes I just can't do it, no matter how bad I want to.
I do freelance painting in my spare time, Ive sold 3 paintings so far..ahha..not much of a demand around here for *fine* art..lol.
I just don't know how we can continue like this without everyone going off the deep end eventually. It's just so frustrating and stressful and tiring to wake up every day and have no idea if we'll have electric, or if someone is going to have an emotional breakdown. At least we'll always have food.
Blah...I miss being 5 again, where the biggest decision and worry in life was which jungle gym I was going to play on during recess.. or if I wanted white milk or chocolate milk with my lunch at school..
My uncle was in a bad car accident last year and cannot work, he can barely walk--he uses a walker, and eventually will graduate to a cain. He had a crushed hip, and has 3 plates in his hip as well as some other *hardware*. The accident also affected his vision slightly. He wasn't the brighest person ever beforehand, and the injuries seem to have made his mental problems worse as well. There is absolutley no way he can hold a job at this point. So my mom got power of attorney over him and filed for disability for him as soon as it was possible. We got the rejection letter today. So now we have to continue supporting him and buying his meds (which aren't cheap).
My mom is also on disability (AKA: very fixed income). She has had 3 back surgeries, has high blood pressure, diabetes, has already had a minor stroke, and currently has at least 1 ruptured disk in her neck...as well as an array of other health issues. She actually goes without some of her meds to make sure my uncle gets what he needs, even with the disability she can't afford the copay on some of her meds.
My moms girlfriend (as in life partner) is much older then my mom..she just turned 70. She doesn't have a lot of health issues that we know of (she refuses to go to a doctor). But she is obviously getting up there in age and gets tired easier herself. She works a part time job, and gets a small social security check.
I was diagnosed this morning with fibromyalgia and I haven't had a job in almost 2 years. I was in college and everything was going great, but then I ended up owing my college money, and I haven't been able to afford to go back. When I was in school I was working in the campus library..so when I left school..I had to leave my job behind as well. When I moved home I haven't been able to find a job since. I have no health insurance, so my mom is also paying for my meds too. And my doctor just added 2 more to my regimen that we really can't afford either. It's a juggling act now to make sure my meds are spaced out enough that we can afford them depending on the time of the month and when checks come in. I'm currently in the process of trying to find a job. I'm working with my mental health clinic and their vocational department, and Im hoping something comes up, but we live in a small area with high unemployment, so I'm not sure how soon it will be that I can find a job.
On top of that, everyone in the house suffers from some kind of mental disorder. My uncle suffers from depression (made worse by the car accident), my mom suffers from severe depression, and I suffer from depression and Borderline Personality Disorder.
I just don't know what we're going to do, we've been hoping his disability would go through for the extra income and to take some of the burden of my mom and her g/f. We're already on foodstamps to get by (but foodstamps don't pay the bills). Just our medications alone cost a couple hundred bucks a month. Plus our bills are outrageous because we just can't pay them in full so we pay what we can. Several times we've been only a day or 2 from utilities being shut off.
My moms depression is getting really bad, and now my uncles is worse because of his denial letter. Mine isn't very good because I feel so fucking guilty that I can't help out more. I try to do what I can around the house, but I just get so tired and achy that sometimes I just can't do it, no matter how bad I want to.
I do freelance painting in my spare time, Ive sold 3 paintings so far..ahha..not much of a demand around here for *fine* art..lol.
I just don't know how we can continue like this without everyone going off the deep end eventually. It's just so frustrating and stressful and tiring to wake up every day and have no idea if we'll have electric, or if someone is going to have an emotional breakdown. At least we'll always have food.
Blah...I miss being 5 again, where the biggest decision and worry in life was which jungle gym I was going to play on during recess.. or if I wanted white milk or chocolate milk with my lunch at school..