Post by riotgirlheather on May 8, 2011 10:06:39 GMT -8
Yes, this is in the right section. lol. I do wish you mommies on this board a Happy Mother's Day. Now, onto my reason for this thread.
Multiple reasons that this day sucks for me. I love my mom, and she deserves a day. My sister, however, does not. I take care of her kids. I do pretty much everything a mom does, minus having gone through labor. I deserve some sort of recognition too. Grrr. I'm the one that has gotten them up for school every day since my dad passed away. Pretty much for since he got too sick to do it. My sister is only a mother when it suits her. Which is to say, when the child support checks come in, and on Mother's Day.
My other reason, it makes me remember that I was almost a mom in a harsh way. I have had to deal with my first miscarriage a lot lately because of the dad coming back into my life (hate you Matthew...grrr) and now, it's hitting pretty hard. I was in my second trimester when I lost her. I knew she was a she. She had a name and everything. I was about to tell my family about her when I lost her. Thanks to her father, I have to deal with that pain much more than I have in the past. Mother's Day just sucks for me. Sigh. I get all the work and none of the glory.
I'll never be who you want me to be, so accept me for who I am.
Happy Mother's Day, Heather! Some day those kids are going to recognize what you do, and their mother does not. I have a cousin who calls my mom on Mother's Day, and has to be reminded about his own, and my mother wasn't nearly as involved in his life as you are in your nephews.
And, in my opinion, at least, you are a mom. That you lost your daughter is tragic, but you are always going to be her mom, and you are always going to love her.
I've always felt there should be a day that recognizes people who care for other people's children. I used to be a nanny, as well as a volunteer caretaker at my church (back when I went) and before I had kids, I always resented how much attention parents would get, while the people who did a lot of grunt work in the background got absolutely no thanks or recognition because they hadn't yet had children of their own. I thought, and think that's bullshit.
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