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Post by winterwhispers on Nov 11, 2010 23:06:12 GMT -8
So, for those who don't know, we have one car that we're able to drive. Or rather, that I'm able to drive. My other half, doesn't drive. He doesn't have his license and honestly, I don't think he ever intends on getting one. He hates driving. I can't say I blame him much, traffic is terrible and stressful no matter the time of day. Anyhow, this puts added stress on me for multiple reasons. 1) I drive him to work. 2) I'm night blind, and he works nights. 3) my car is a piece of crap and gives me anxiety driving it in the daylight, let alone at night 4) it hurts to drive it 5) I can't take any meds on the nights I drive him to work, because by the time I get home, I won't get enough sleep time in to be functioning in the morning when I get up to go to work. This is starting to really take a toll on me. The biggest problem lies in the fact that he is also a chronic pain sufferer, though he won't go to the dr for it. It was hard enough getting him to go in for his bipolar disorder. So making him walk the 6 miles to work before his shift is just cruel. He already walks the 6 miles home. I don't know what to do. Other than bitch. argh.
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Post by juniper on Nov 11, 2010 23:47:08 GMT -8
I know people without pain issues that have a similar thing in place. It kicks their butts, too.
Bitch away about it. I would.
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morciel
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Post by morciel on Nov 12, 2010 1:34:35 GMT -8
I'd suggest a bike or maybe a taxi if possible, but i don't know the rates or landscape out there for that sort of thing.
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Post by winterwhispers on Nov 12, 2010 6:21:57 GMT -8
Taxi is too expensive (it would be like $15 each way) and we have a bike for him, it's just in disrepair right now and he's lazy. I should have one of our son's friends fix it for us for a few $. The kid is a genius at fixing things. Especially bikes. I wonder if he'd go for that... hmmmm. The landscape in the town we live in, or at least the area he'd be traveling, is fairly flat, so that's not even an issue...
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Post by aionis on Nov 13, 2010 16:02:17 GMT -8
I feel for both of you. Is car pooling possible for him?
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Post by winterwhispers on Nov 13, 2010 21:51:08 GMT -8
No, unfortunately not. No co-workers of his live near us. Mind you, it's only a 6 mile trip each way, but walking it sucks. Especially in wonderful NW weather. And we have snow in the forecast in the next week or so.... he's able to ride a bus part way home, which took off some of his walk home, but the bus doesn't run so late at night to get him there. That's the one of the crap parts of him working overnights.... I feel like I'm shooting down everyones suggestions, but we've tried these routes already
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morciel
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Post by morciel on Nov 13, 2010 23:58:39 GMT -8
do you have neighbors? maybe you can barter something, they drive him to work and back and in turn you guys maybe cook dinner once a week or babysit the kids.
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Post by kmcm on Nov 16, 2010 19:20:03 GMT -8
I could beat him up for you.
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Post by winterwhispers on Nov 16, 2010 20:32:10 GMT -8
heh heh. Beat him with your cane!!! though, he might like that! heh! I honestly wish there was a better way for him to get to/from work. The bus only gets him about half way in the morning and it's not available for him to take in the evening and all of our neighbors suck. Okay, not all suck, but honestly, half of them are old and in bed before he has to leave. That or he hates the rest of them. We do have a lot of sucky neighbors. We don't talk but to a couple of them anymore because of the rest of them having such unruly rude children or they themselves are just not worth the breath to speak to. The crackheads next door ran off the only neighbors we liked and got along with.
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morciel
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Post by morciel on Nov 16, 2010 23:44:22 GMT -8
damn..then short of getting a glider and a long running start i'm out of ideas.
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Post by winterwhispers on Dec 17, 2010 9:48:09 GMT -8
I'm going to just add to this thread, because I just need to bitch, but it isn't anything worth starting a new thread over.
Our second oldest (14) apparently took it upon himself to tell the baby (almost 7) that Santa is a myth and that it's just parents that bring those gifts. Goddamn it! I wanted him to figure it out on his own and keep the innocence and excitement as long as possible. So I decided that next year, no Santa presents. Screw 'em if they want to be like that. Damn kids. Ruined it for me, because I love the excitement and joy that all the "extra" gifts brought. I realized this morning that I've enjoyed the holidays less and less as the kids have gotten older. Now I'm getting to the eff it all stage. I don't like that, because I used to LOVE christmas, decorating, baking, presents and all the excitement and wonderment. Now my damn angsty teenagers have ruined it for me too. grrrr! Okay, back to baking cookies for my co-workers who actually seem appreciative when I bake them something and bring it in.
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Post by morciel on Dec 18, 2010 10:40:21 GMT -8
so let make sure i understand, you get the gifts the hide some so that they can think santa brought them? i'm sorry but ur 14 yr old is a meaniepants. he should get coal.
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Post by Nico on Dec 18, 2010 13:23:38 GMT -8
If I had done that to my little sister, my parents would have definitely punished me for it.
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Post by kmcm on Dec 18, 2010 19:59:15 GMT -8
Which kid? I shall be over soon to show him a little "magic" myself......Don't feel too bad, the 10yo just figured it out himself this year, although he's had doubts for years. We NEED to get together. Dammit. Get thy family down to the ferryboat and i will pick all of you up. My van has room for 6 passengers. Bring me cookies. Susie wants another sandwich.
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Post by morciel on Dec 18, 2010 21:45:13 GMT -8
wish i could come...sigh
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