morciel
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He who helps, as much as he can
No reason to think, or feel. Just breath in and out. As the song says, nothing else matters.
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Post by morciel on Nov 29, 2010 12:28:54 GMT -8
all the texting me and no giggles until now? shame on me lol. O.O i....um....i meant just making you happier...um....*blushes* o.O
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Post by riotgirlheather on Nov 30, 2010 5:50:50 GMT -8
Hehe...lol. Yeah, there have been giggles...but not quite as evil and hysterical as those...lmao.
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morciel
Three Digits!
He who helps, as much as he can
No reason to think, or feel. Just breath in and out. As the song says, nothing else matters.
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Post by morciel on Dec 2, 2010 4:54:55 GMT -8
lol you're crazy sometimes dear.
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Post by riotgirlheather on Jan 18, 2011 14:06:47 GMT -8
Update...the ex decided he couldn't cope with being friends with someone who hates his wife. Translation, he's too much of a wuss to deal with the feelings he dredged up by dropping a bombshell so huge on me so he's doing what he does best and running for the hills.
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Post by riotgirlheather on Apr 8, 2011 6:26:56 GMT -8
Yet another update...and it's a doozy.
He's back again. He reappeared in March. We started talking, and being friends again. He's still thinking about leaving his wife. I could be knocked up. It's all so much fun. Apparently, I am a homewrecker. It was unintentional. We were talking one night about everything in the universe and one thing led to another and we did it. Now, don't get me wrong, he is not the cheating type of man. I know that sounds awful considering that he has now cheated. He is so opposed to it, and I told him that if he was willing to cheat, he needs to reevaluate everything. The fact that he's been willing to cheat repeatedly is another factor.
I know this makes me sound like an opportunistic slut or something, and I will own up to my mistakes, if I thought this was a mistake. I'm still owning up though. Responsibility and all that. I still hold to the fact that I won't do anything that he doesn't want me to do. If he hadn't wanted to kiss me, or have sex with me, I wouldn't have allowed it to happen.
I'm afraid that I'm going to get hurt. Big time. I feel myself slowly falling downwards into my spiral of depression. I'm reading way too much into everything. He has told me he wants to be with me, but at this point, I'm questioning his motives. I really shouldn't be doing that, I know him too well to question him. My cynical nature is getting the best of me.
I know I should stop talking to him until he makes his decision, but that is so difficult for me. I'm not good at not talking to people.
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Nico
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Post by Nico on Apr 8, 2011 23:05:54 GMT -8
"I know I should stop talking to him until he makes his decision"
I don't want to be a jerk here, but that sentence is bullshit. Don't EVER let someone else, especially some man who has been jerking you around, make decisions for your life. EVER.
I am seriously not trying to be a bitch when I say this, I'm trying to empower you. It really pains me to read the situation you're in, because I've been in the same kind of situation, and it's just major fucking bullshit. You're not going to feel okay until you take control and make a choice for yourself.
Fuck him, seriously. Whoever you are in love with, it's not who he really is. You're in love with who he was, or maybe just an illusion. All I know is that if he was IN LOVE with you and had your best interest in mind, you wouldn't be in the situation you're in right now: waiting around for him to choose you.
Choose yourself, dammit.
I'm sorry if this hurts you, or goes against the whole we should shut up and support each other here, no matter what thing. I just had to say it.
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Post by kmcm on Apr 10, 2011 14:10:29 GMT -8
Nico, Your post was fine. You WERE being supportive. You want her to take care of her. Sometimes the truth hurts.
Heather, ditch him and the bitch he's with, and find YOU. Again, I'm still concerned that you don't seem to be able to be happy unless you are in a relationship. Be happy with the beautiful that is you.
Quit being his backup plan.
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Nico
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Post by Nico on Apr 10, 2011 22:29:37 GMT -8
Good, kmcm - I was afraid I was going to come off as totally insensitive, and that's not how I meant it.
I can tell you fro my own experience, riotgirl - you can waste many years of your life just existing because you're allowing someone else - without even realizing you're giving them that power - to choose the direction of your life.
No man is worth it. Not a single man on this planet is worth putting your life on hold indefinitely while he dicks around trying to decide whether or not he wants to be with you.
Shit, I know your value more than he does, and I have never even met you.
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