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Post by kmcm on Nov 6, 2010 21:09:03 GMT -8
One of my biggest peeves is "I'm sorry" As if the speaker had anything to do with what i'm going through. I feel better if they say "That sucks, is there anything i can do to help?"
Another one is "You are too young to be disabled." No shit? Disabilities have an age limit? I usually respond with "I was too young to have some asshole take normal life away from me at 18. I can't change the disability part." And then i REALLY want to hit them with my cane, and toddle off into the sunset.
Anyone else?
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Post by juniper on Nov 6, 2010 21:21:59 GMT -8
I occasionally have to use a motorized cart in the grocery store, or a wheelchair in the airport. I hear a lot of "But those are for disabled people!"
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Post by kmcm on Nov 6, 2010 21:54:40 GMT -8
I occasionally have to use a motorized cart in the grocery store, or a wheelchair in the airport. I hear a lot of "But those are for disabled people!" OOH! That's a good one. The fact that people think that they know you just by looking at you. Other places use the term "invisible illness" Somehow i don't think that one covers it very well....unless you are bleeding heavily, everything is invisible, isn't it?
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ginsu
Testing the waters
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Post by ginsu on Nov 6, 2010 21:56:09 GMT -8
I hate getting sized up coming out of my car when I need the disabled space.....I do not always need a disabled placard(if I don't need it, I don't use it), but at times I do....."But you don't "Look" disabled. What *exactly* does disabled look like?
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Post by winterwhispers on Nov 7, 2010 0:49:13 GMT -8
The one that pissed me off the other day at work.... "Oh, it's just fibromyalgia. Get over it!" Yeah, right on top of that Rose.
Karma's great though... because 3 days later she had her truck broken into and her gps and 2 ipods stolen.... ha!
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morciel
Three Digits!
He who helps, as much as he can
No reason to think, or feel. Just breath in and out. As the song says, nothing else matters.
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Post by morciel on Nov 7, 2010 2:15:35 GMT -8
And there is the magical, "you'll get over it" or "it's all in your head". Yeah, because you stuttered for about three mins when you were in 7th grade means that you know whats happening in my head. Let me put tape over your mouth so you can't talk for half the day, maybe then you'll know what I go through.
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Post by riotgirlheather on Nov 7, 2010 6:23:24 GMT -8
I heavily agree with "I'm sorry." I've told one of my friends that it has nothing to do with her so stop apologizing. That is my number one hated phrase. Closely followed by the "you'll get over it" and "it's all in your head." I hate those. While yes, a lot of my issues are in my head with the crazies...people need to get their heads out of their rears and get over themselves.
One I get is, "are you sure you're not feeling well?" My parents have a tendency to doubt when I'm in pain, or not feeling well, because I manage to go out with my friends once a week if I'm feeling up to it. The worst part of it is the "are you sure" part. It's like they think I don't know what's going on in my own head and body.
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Post by Pahz on Nov 7, 2010 13:18:12 GMT -8
"What doesn't kill you will make you stronger!" (or any variation of the same).
If that's true, then where's my cape? I'm a freakn' superhero by now! (which is what I say to people who say that to me. Depending on who they are, I replace "freakin'..." with "fucking").
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morciel
Three Digits!
He who helps, as much as he can
No reason to think, or feel. Just breath in and out. As the song says, nothing else matters.
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Post by morciel on Nov 7, 2010 13:35:53 GMT -8
Yeah! If that was true, I'd be like flying around with a sword or something.
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Post by kmcm on Nov 7, 2010 13:44:01 GMT -8
Pain makes you a superhero. I like this concept. I may add it to the news flashing on the home page.
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aionis
Opening up
Princess of TMI
Are we there yet?
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Post by aionis on Nov 7, 2010 19:21:46 GMT -8
Self harm is not a fashion statement, nor is it a phase that someone will naturally outgrow. People who self harm are not selfish emo teens who want to wallow in their misery. Really.
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morciel
Three Digits!
He who helps, as much as he can
No reason to think, or feel. Just breath in and out. As the song says, nothing else matters.
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Post by morciel on Nov 7, 2010 22:36:04 GMT -8
nor is every kid that has scars on their arms a cutter, or every kid that wears all black goth or emo..ugh *rage fills eyes*
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Bunny
Figuring us out
I'm just a little black rain cloud hovering over the honey tree....
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Post by Bunny on Nov 7, 2010 23:03:17 GMT -8
I detest being told how strong I am for "dealing" with everything I have. I'm not "dealing" with it. I've accepted it as a part of my life, daily, and moved on. I wake up every morning. It's a new day to me. A new day to either be a success or a failure. I try to remain as positive as I can, but man, don't tell me how proud you are of me for what I'm "dealing" with. I don't think about all my issues. I don't wear them as a badge of honour. I don't sit and cry "Woe is me" about them to gain any sense of being or gratification from others. I just want to LIVE. Another thing I detest is when people near me, like close family or friends, play off some of my problems as if they're just fake. Like the pain I'm feeling is just complete pretend, and those tears I cry because of that fake pain..... oh yeah, Thems fake actess tears for attention. And it takes a lot to make me cry. And that is what hurts the most. I've been pushed to a phsical uncomfortableness so far that I cry...and I'm told to quit pretending. Sometimes that just makes me feel so insignificant.
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Post by succubusdream on Nov 25, 2010 23:01:18 GMT -8
'I can't' is really irritating from people who absolutely can. They just convince themselves they can't with saying it. In some cases of physical impairment, it is understandable, but not even trying pisses me off.
Or 'I'm sorry'
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Post by juniper on Nov 26, 2010 15:02:38 GMT -8
"If you'd just" followed by whatever the speaker thinks I should (or should not) do "everything would be fine."
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