Post by geminilee on Dec 27, 2010 1:27:57 GMT -8
I am not sure where to put this (am I ever?) but this seemed like as good a place as any. This will probably be a long, confusing a post: it documents a fairly long confusing situation. It turns out good (so far) so this looks like a good spot for it.
I have been living for a while with a Boyfriend J and and BFF (from the last thread) H. We live in a large city where J works and I have hospitals and things, but J has children he understandably wants to be near, who live in a small town a bit over an hours drive away. J wants to get a place down there and drive up every morning. Then he said something about getting a great big house where his mother and kids could live with us.
I probably could have handled that better than I did. I don't think I totally freaked out, but I probably freaked out a little. He backed down, said it was a joke. Then he said H and I could stay up here, and he would get a place down there, but he couldn't afford to help with rent (we can't afford to make it without him). Things were all up in the air for a long time, I had no idea what was going to happen when my lease ran out.
All of that was back a few months ago, between my two seizures. So, just before my second seizure, H suggests her sister coming to live with us. Now, at this point I am desperate, I am convinced we are losing a big chunk of income that we need. Also, she wants to get her sister out of a bad situation.
A note on H: She was in a bad situation, and I played Lancelot to go get her and bring her with me. Plus I have the huge crush thing on her. Her sister is a drug addict with legitimate severe pain issues on top of that, and was in an abusive relationship. I can't exactly say "No, We will just leave her there." Not if I want to keep the whole friendship/crush thing going.
At some point after my seizure, H got a solid promise that her sister, S could move in. I don't remember doing it. But if I were perfectly rational, what different choice could I make?
So, on Christmas Day, I spent the day loading it up with stuff and bringing her up here. So far it is going well. I am optimistic.
I have been living for a while with a Boyfriend J and and BFF (from the last thread) H. We live in a large city where J works and I have hospitals and things, but J has children he understandably wants to be near, who live in a small town a bit over an hours drive away. J wants to get a place down there and drive up every morning. Then he said something about getting a great big house where his mother and kids could live with us.
I probably could have handled that better than I did. I don't think I totally freaked out, but I probably freaked out a little. He backed down, said it was a joke. Then he said H and I could stay up here, and he would get a place down there, but he couldn't afford to help with rent (we can't afford to make it without him). Things were all up in the air for a long time, I had no idea what was going to happen when my lease ran out.
All of that was back a few months ago, between my two seizures. So, just before my second seizure, H suggests her sister coming to live with us. Now, at this point I am desperate, I am convinced we are losing a big chunk of income that we need. Also, she wants to get her sister out of a bad situation.
A note on H: She was in a bad situation, and I played Lancelot to go get her and bring her with me. Plus I have the huge crush thing on her. Her sister is a drug addict with legitimate severe pain issues on top of that, and was in an abusive relationship. I can't exactly say "No, We will just leave her there." Not if I want to keep the whole friendship/crush thing going.
At some point after my seizure, H got a solid promise that her sister, S could move in. I don't remember doing it. But if I were perfectly rational, what different choice could I make?
So, on Christmas Day, I spent the day loading it up with stuff and bringing her up here. So far it is going well. I am optimistic.